Curiosity in the media
Sexuality workshops and play spaces lubricated my gender fluidity
by Sair Gryphon (Curious Creatures)
Published by Archer Magazine, May 2018.
"Regularly attending play parties has given me an arena to further stretch into, and relish, my gender fluidity. I’ve been attending the Curiosity play-space (also run by Curious Creatures) for about 18 months, and it’s a space unlike any other I’ve experienced. Picture a room of 80-odd people who are a diverse range of gender identities and expressions, sexual orientations, expressions of sexuality and/or sensuality (including asexuality), relationship styles, ages, ethnicities, social comfort, and more.
These people are hanging out together, chatting, cuddling, watching, being watched, playing, doing theatre, having vanilla sex / tantric sex / kinky sex / all-kinds-of-sex, exploring BDSM, demonstrating sex toys, crossdressing, putting on gameshows, and much more than I can fit here. They’re all on the same page on seeking congruent consent, and how to do this; it’s a prerequisite to do a workshop on consent and communication."
What I learned about myself at my first sex party
by Sair Gryphon (Curious Creatures)
Published by MamaMia, December 2017.
"In 2016 I decided I needed to become more ‘sex positive’. I wanted to get into my body and revel in its pleasure. I wanted to be okay with my sexual appetites (and even know what they were) – no small ask since my religious fundamentalist background taught me that sexuality was dirty in general, and non-straight sexuality was demonic.
I wanted to stop judging other people who were different to me with their sexualities, and feel at peace with human diversity.
My good friend (straight-ish, married) told me about a Melbourne-based play party, Curiosity, run by sexuality educators, Curious Creatures. She’d attended with her husband, and they’d spent a lot of time in the kissing booth. I was fascinated, titillated, kinda scared, and doing my best to hide any lingering judge-y feelings.
I was full of questions: What exactly went on there? What did she do and how did it feel? Did the party feel safe? Was it sleazy?"
I Went to a Sex Party in Melbourne and this is what happened ...
by '30 year old professional woman, living in Melbourne, recently single' attending on behalf of the Passionfruit Tribe.
Published by Passionfruit, November 2017.
"I’m a 30 year old professional woman, living in Melbourne, recently single, and I feel like my sex life has been a tad one dimensional. I keep falling into standard ‘sexual intercourse’ with guys. It feels based on ‘how quickly can I stick my thing in your thing’ and I want to know what else is available on the sexual menu.
So, I went to a sex party. I did this on behalf of the Passionfruit Tribe (thank you Passionfruit!) in search for something a bit more sensual… (taking one for the team, so to speak).
’Curiosity’ is the name of the party. It is run by workshop organisers ‘Curious Creatures’ out of a venue in Brunswick. It describes itself as:
‘a very unusual exploration of sexuality, self-development, and liberation... an experiment in community and self-development that uses sexuality as a starting point.’
It sounds like an orgy with a personality and a degree. I’m nervous, but, as the label advises, curious…"
My husband of 17 years survived cancer, then told me he wanted to open our relationship
by Jill Baker* (*name has been changed)
Published by The Age newspaper, November 2016.
"After reading everything I could find, I found a sex advice column in a newspaper about a couple opening their relationship and the therapist recommended a workshop-sex play party called Curiosity. I didn't realise it then, but I had discovered what would ultimately be our salvation. Three months after our first difficult conversation, we attended our first session which gave us a safe place to explore, and it introduced us to an extraordinary group of people.
The key theme was the concept of communication, consent and feedback. It's such a simple formula and yet has such a powerful implication on relationships. For the first time, I began to wonder if I could ask for what I wanted, and be open enough to receive it. I felt empowered. And curious about where this might lead.
We didn't suddenly jump into the deep end at this party. We watched, talked to people and explored the connection with each other first. We went back the next month and then the month after that. We made friends with other people. We began with some flirtations and a couple of months in, we eventually began seeing other people and building connections with them."