Curiosity consists of three main parts:
1: A workshop (on consent, communication, sex-positivity, and learning more about yourself). You must do the workshop before attending the play-party.
2: A play-party.
3: A debrief session (debriefing, integration, and community-building).
1: A workshop (on consent, communication, sex-positivity, and learning more about yourself). You must do the workshop before attending the play-party.
2: A play-party.
3: A debrief session (debriefing, integration, and community-building).
The workshop
The workshop (generally on a Saturday or Sunday afternoon, a week or two before a play-party) includes discussion, theory, and practical exercises relating to communication and consent. It includes:
INTENSITY: The workshop is at least two our of four chillies, the party at least three out of four chillies. All parts of Curiosity are run as safely and cautiously as possible, however the content can involve challenging material for some people.
WHO FOR: People that have already taken their first steps into the world of their sexuality (or that strongly relate to how this is pitched). People of any gender or sexual orientation. People that are interested in expanding and extending themselves. People who enjoy a lot of consciousness and consent in their adventures.
WHO NOT FOR: Not for people looking for a slow first step on their journey of self-discovery. Curiosity is not for people uncomfortable with a diversity of genders and sexual expressions. (And men, we need to be blunt with you about something, because we'd feel unethical taking your money otherwise: If you're an older man, and you're only interested in penetrative sex with attractive young women, you're probably not going to get your needs met here. We love you and your sexuality, but you'll be better off elsewhere. If you're interested in expanding your horizons, however, the perhaps read on...)
WILL THERE BE PAIR-WORK? Yes, during the workshop.
HOW WILL PAIRING BE DONE? If you don't already have a partner, pairing will be done completely randomly, via a number system, with no regard to gender or anything else. Please note, all exercises can be taken only to the level that's right for you at the time. The content of the workshop is educational rather than a dating service, so it doesn't matter who you're working with. A couple of activities involve asserting your boundaries in relation to touch, and making sure you can communicate and respond to "no".
CAN YOU WORK EXCLUSIVELY WITH ONE PARTNER? Yes.
NUDITY & SEXUAL CONTENT: The weekend is about sex and sexual expression. The workshop includes discussion of sexual content, and the play-space includes nudity and various expressions of sexuality.
COMMITMENT: You may sit out of any activity, or participate only to a level that's right for you. There is no expectation that you will want to play at the play-space; you are encouraged to observe only. There is no expectation you will get naked.
RATIO OF DISCUSSION TO EXPERIENTIAL: The workshop is about 50/50.
BRING: For the workshop - water bottle, your own snacks, comfortable clothing. For the play-party - clothing that expresses your sexuality, or whatever you're comfortable in. More info upon booking.
WEAR: As above.
- Boundary setting, and working out what you are and aren't interested in.
- Tools and practical exercises in communicating your interests and boundaries.
- Safety issues (ranging from the emotional through to the physical).
- Etiquette.
- How to communicate about sexuality and relationship concepts in this context.
INTENSITY: The workshop is at least two our of four chillies, the party at least three out of four chillies. All parts of Curiosity are run as safely and cautiously as possible, however the content can involve challenging material for some people.
WHO FOR: People that have already taken their first steps into the world of their sexuality (or that strongly relate to how this is pitched). People of any gender or sexual orientation. People that are interested in expanding and extending themselves. People who enjoy a lot of consciousness and consent in their adventures.
WHO NOT FOR: Not for people looking for a slow first step on their journey of self-discovery. Curiosity is not for people uncomfortable with a diversity of genders and sexual expressions. (And men, we need to be blunt with you about something, because we'd feel unethical taking your money otherwise: If you're an older man, and you're only interested in penetrative sex with attractive young women, you're probably not going to get your needs met here. We love you and your sexuality, but you'll be better off elsewhere. If you're interested in expanding your horizons, however, the perhaps read on...)
WILL THERE BE PAIR-WORK? Yes, during the workshop.
HOW WILL PAIRING BE DONE? If you don't already have a partner, pairing will be done completely randomly, via a number system, with no regard to gender or anything else. Please note, all exercises can be taken only to the level that's right for you at the time. The content of the workshop is educational rather than a dating service, so it doesn't matter who you're working with. A couple of activities involve asserting your boundaries in relation to touch, and making sure you can communicate and respond to "no".
CAN YOU WORK EXCLUSIVELY WITH ONE PARTNER? Yes.
NUDITY & SEXUAL CONTENT: The weekend is about sex and sexual expression. The workshop includes discussion of sexual content, and the play-space includes nudity and various expressions of sexuality.
COMMITMENT: You may sit out of any activity, or participate only to a level that's right for you. There is no expectation that you will want to play at the play-space; you are encouraged to observe only. There is no expectation you will get naked.
RATIO OF DISCUSSION TO EXPERIENTIAL: The workshop is about 50/50.
BRING: For the workshop - water bottle, your own snacks, comfortable clothing. For the play-party - clothing that expresses your sexuality, or whatever you're comfortable in. More info upon booking.
WEAR: As above.
The play-space
The Play-Space (generally on a Saturday late afternoon or evening) is a "sex-positive" space, simply meaning that a lot of forms of self-expression are welcome. It is often described as being a space where adults learn to play again. You are encouraged not to put any pressure on yourself to have any particular kind of experience - especially if it's your first time at Curiosity. The play-space has a mood and feel that is generally light, accessible and friendly, and where you are welcome to simply chat and observe. But if you are feeling adventurous, you'll quickly come to appreciate the shared language and culture around consent and safety.
Every person that's ever gone to the Curiosity party has been to the Curiosity workshop first. This means that a strong and relatively friendly culture exists, with very clear lines around what is expected in relation to such things as how people conduct themselves, what our safer-sex expectations are, etc.
Every person that's ever gone to the Curiosity party has been to the Curiosity workshop first. This means that a strong and relatively friendly culture exists, with very clear lines around what is expected in relation to such things as how people conduct themselves, what our safer-sex expectations are, etc.
The debrief session
The Debrief Session (usually the day after a Saturday play-party, but sometimes following the Curiosity party) are community and small-group conversations. They include reflections and discussions about the Play-Space, integration of what you learned, reflections and celebrations, and future goal-setting. The Debrief Session often includes special and profound conversations, and for many people are the best part of Curiosity.
The first time you do Curiosity, you must do the workshop, the play-space, and the debrief session. After that, you are welcome to attend the play-space as often as you like, and are also encouraged to continue attending the debrief sessions (for free) since this is where so much learning and community building happen. (Some folks also tend to wander off to the pub together, afterwards).
Keep your eye on the calendar for upcoming dates. We tend to alternate days and times as much as possible, to accommodate different needs.
Keep your eye on the calendar for upcoming dates. We tend to alternate days and times as much as possible, to accommodate different needs.
